FERM – Female Exclusionary Radical Males

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FERM – Female Exclusionary Radical Males by R J Cook

R J Cook January 2024

Introduction by R J Cook with more stories below.

This page replaces the Hate Male Pages now archived above. The purpose is to look at stories of feminist double standards, female hypocrisy,, excusing serious female crime like child abuse, female initiated domestic violence, their hatred of transsexuals with reasons why and their ever receding horizons. Feminism is not about equality. It is about domination. There have never been so many females at the top of the western power structure. Nor has there ever been so much violence, male suicide and wars, now approaching a nuclear holocaust – with Scandinavian female politicians taking the war mongering bait to join NATO. In my past working life, I have been in many mixed gender meetings where anyone trying to tell a powerful woman anything is accused of mansplaining. A few years before my divorce, I told my wife that all decisions were a default to her. I said whenever I wanted anything there was always a row. She replied : “I feel I have to challenge you.”

Power is a zero sum. The power that matters is at elite level. Men like billionaire George Soros saw the value of promoting feminism, because dividing, controlling and ruling the masses along gender lines, as they have already done with race, protects and enhances their power. Among the western masses, the genders are drifting further apart. It is no wonder homosexuality is increasing with both sexes along with transsexualism. Fantasy writer J K Rowling, whose only claim to fame is the popular dumbing down Harry Potter series, makes her offensive and asinine assertion that transsexuals make the drastic change to get inside female safe spaces to assault or rape the female occupants.

Women are free to lie because, in our prejudiced society, backed by their doting fathers, they look so nice and have softer non threatening voices until they lose their temper, coming at you with a broken wine glass as I experienced in my own kitchen. If they maim or kill it is put down to hormones and the ‘fact’ that the man asked for it. So in my view, it is men and male to female transsexuals who need safe spaces. I suggest someone forms an organisation called FERM – Female Exclusionary Radical Males. The trouble is, that would, or soon will be illegal.

This is because feminists would call it misogynistic and sexist. Men need to understand that female intrusion into male safe spaces is State approved. Women are a secret police force watching over men. If a man raises his voice to his wife, partner or children, she or the neighbours will call the police and he will soon be homeless and ruined. According to the religion of feminism, men are a synonym for festering violence waiting to erupt. He must know his place but never aspire to wear female clothing, make up or having feminising surgery. Men need firm direction from the sisterhood, ubiquitous and ever reforming. The feminist dogma states that we need as much female leadership as possible – Thatcher was a wonderful example ( sic ).

Men tried forming a group called ‘Families need fathers’. They established an internet profile and protests. Undercover police moved in very quickly to close them down as hate preachers. The State needs feminism, pretty much as George Orwell predicted. By their very nature,women only see the immediate advantage to them of any choice or action, not the ruin and even suicide of their children. The conceit and arrogance of the worldwide feminist lobby is redolent in their churlish response to the ‘Barbie’ film receiving no Oscar nominations. This diatribe conveys the message that women must rebel against being valued just for their appearance and expectation of serving men. This theme is so cliched and typical of the white liberal elite. It has no bearing on the appalling and fragmented reality of the western world. But it is great fanatsy for little women who want to feel big when they put down boyfriends, brothers and men in general.

The proponents of this poison cannot or will not see the national and social destruction correlated – and in my view caused by – to the rise of feminism. It is a western , especially Anglo American mantra, that lower class white men are domestic abusers and racists waiting to happen. That is the Barbie films feminist message, even if they have had what is now called ‘gender reassignment.’ The feminists and Rishi Sunak won’t have this, all having the mentality to worship and promote women as godesses. No wonder there is such a big market and so many adverts for Viagra. After 31 years as lackey and scapegoat in married life, I reached the point of wondering why I ever wanted sex let alone bring two sons into such an unhappy relationship and dangerous world for men.

Why is it that, in this wonderful rainbow world of equality, that the men were locked in to fight for Ukraine in the NATO proxy war on Russia, and the women were allowed to flee with their children because they were the mothers ? It goes on further with the rubbish that Ukraine needs another 500.000 people if they are not going to lose that war. What Zelensky means is that he needs another 500,000 men ( privileged white males ), not women. The pretence of an equal world where women are ultimately in charge and morally superior is rather like a ship full of holes. Eventually there will be no men left to keep working the pumps to bail out the water. When did women stop being aninals like the rest of us ? Answer is, ‘when their daddies put them on a pedestal’ and the State cashed in.

Look carefully at the Barbie DVD cover’s small print at the top : ‘She’s everything.He is just Ken.’ That is the feminist messasge this film is all about and why feninists and their insipid ‘me too supporters’ are so angry. because it did not beat the serious ‘Openheimer’ film to the Oscars. I am not surprised ASDA had to drop the price.Barbie is anti white male.

Never shy about sharing their opinions, users on X (formerly Twitter) let loose on the deep irony of Ken, but not Barbie, getting an Oscar nomination about the challenges of womanhood and the dangers of toxic masculinity.

Ken getting nominated and not Barbie is honestly so fitting for a film about a man discovering the power of patriarchy in the Real World.— Michael. (@yosoymichael) January 23, 2024

Wait Ryan Gosling got nominated for his role as Ken, but Margot Robbie didn’t get nominated for Barbie?! And Greta got snubbed for Best Director?!?!

Way to justify the literal plot of the movie @TheAcademy 🥴 #Oscars2024 pic.twitter.com/6MEHaSeTjZ— Shirleigh (@ShirleighShirlz) January 23, 2024

March 2nd 2024

Here’s What J.K. Rowling Has Actually Said About Trans People

By Claire Lampen, editor and writer 

terfs Feb. 16, 2023

On Wednesday, the New York Times received two open letters — one from advocacy and human-rights groups and another from hundreds of contributors — urging the paper to reform its approach to covering stories about transgender people. According to GLAAD, the Times has routinely adopted a devil’s-advocate approach in articles that question medically accepted standards for gender-affirming care. Its reporting has been used by conservative politicians to justify new laws targeting trans youth, and it has published pearl-clutching columns worrying that gender-inclusive language amounts to the erasure of women or that giving children more latitude to express their gender undoes some of feminism’s gains.

For all of those reasons, GLAAD’s first request of the Times is that it “stop printing biased anti-trans stories” immediately. Instead, one day after the letters went public, the paper published another divisive opinion by Pamela Paul, the columnist who authored both of the takes mentioned above. On Thursday, Paul came out with “In Defense of J.K. Rowling,” an op-ed arguing that criticism of the author — whose definition and understanding of womanhood seems to hinge on biological sex — as transphobic is neither fair nor accurate. Paul doesn’t take the time to analyze the Harry Potter author’s actual comments but nonetheless concludes the following:

Nothing Rowling has said qualifies as transphobic. She is not disputing the existence of gender dysphoria. She has never voiced opposition to allowing people to transition under evidence-based therapeutic and medical care. She is not denying transgender people equal pay or housing. There is no evidence that she is putting trans people “in danger,” as has been claimed, nor is she denying their right to exist.

No, she simply doesn’t seem to believe that trans women really are women — an attitude that denies the validity of their existence. When Rowling flags herself as an ally — when she writes that “trans people need and deserve protection” or “I want trans women to be safe” — she routinely follows up with some form of “but” that draws a thick line between trans women and all other women. That is why some of Rowling’s former fans have branded her a TERF (trans-exclusionary radical feminist), and while she dislikes the label, she shares the gender-essentialist view at its core: that womanhood is fixed, intrinsic, and anatomically determined. Rowling has stuck to this line for years, even though doctors and scientists agree that sex assignment and gender are not the same thing.

The first controversy came in December 2019, when Rowling tweeted her support for Maya Forstater, a British researcher whose contract was not renewed when the think tank that employed her found “offensive and exclusionary” language — such as her statement that “men cannot change into women” or “transwomen are male,” to name just a few examples — in her social-media and Slack history.In Rowling’s retelling, this was a case of a woman being “forced” out of her job “for stating that sex is real” — an oversimplification but a telling one. Trans-exclusionary feminism relies on the idea that “sex is a biological fact and is immutable,” as Forstater would put it, and that it determines whether a person is a man or a woman.

Operating on that premise, Rowling has identified menstruation as a hallmark of womanhood, wondering what to call “people who menstruate” in a June 2020 tweet. “I’m sure there used to be a word for those people,” she wrote, “Someone help me out. Wumben? Wimpund? Woomud?” This, too, received pushback: Having a uterus is a prerequisite for getting a period, and while many people in that camp are cisgender women, many others are trans men, nonbinary people, the list goes on. At the same time, lots of cisgender women can’t or don’t get periods for a wide range of biological reasons including menopause, an overactive thyroid, and polycystic ovary syndrome. In response to the criticism of her quip, Rowling reiterated her stance: “If sex isn’t real, the lived reality of women globally is erased. I know and love trans people, but erasing the concept of sex removes the ability of many to meaningfully discuss their lives. It isn’t hate to speak the truth.”

The truth is that sex isn’t the decisive factor in determining identity that Rowling thinks it is. What of people born with XXY chromosomes, androgen insensitivity syndrome, or ambiguous genitalia? But Rowling won’t let it go, and her obsession seems rooted in a misplaced fear — that trans women will harass, assault, even rape “natal girls and women” if they are allowed to use the same protected spaces. In an essay addressing the June 2020 Twitter controversy, “TERF Wars,” Rowling acknowledged that trans people, and particularly trans women, face disproportionate rates of violence. According to a recent study, they are more than four times as likely as cisgender people to experience rape, sexual assault, and aggravated or simple assault — including at the hands of a partner. But, Rowling wrote, “When you throw open the doors of bathrooms and changing rooms to any man who believes or feels he’s a woman — and, as I’ve said, gender confirmation certificates may now be granted without any need for surgery or hormones — then you open the door to any and all men who wish to come inside. That is the simple truth.” It’s not, though. There’s no evidence to suggest that trans people are committing crimes in bathrooms.

Every time she starts talking about trans issues, Rowling seems to resurfaceanotherdamaging and debunked misconception. She has claimed, erroneously, that youths who transition often “grow out of their dysphoria” and regret their decision — an attitude that is, right now, guiding Republicans as they restrict access to gender-affirming care for minors. She has speculated that hormone therapy is just “a new kind of conversion therapy for young gay people.” In that sense, beliefs like Rowling’s are dangerous — particularly when they’re peddled by a figure with her level of reach and influence.

Paul and Rowling are both cisgender women — a status for which neither is under attack (I say all of this as a cisgender woman myself), but which naturally means they can’t speak with authority on what it means to be a transgender woman. Yet when Rowling’strans readers say, “What you said hurt me and here’s why,” she seems to skip over introspection and springs to self-defense. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, yes, but opinions can be offensive too. They can be bigoted. They can be factually unsupported. They can be damaging. They can do harm — intentionally or not. That’s something Paul and the Times don’t seem to grasp.

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February 29th 2024

Feminism is Beyond Reasoned Argiment. It Is Sanctified State Approved Bigotry & Prejudice – R.J Cook

‘I was hounded out of Oxfam over JK Rowling’ A former employee reveals how she was silenced – “If you are a woman, you will always be a target” ( J.K Rowling )

Julie Bindel
June 6, 2023   7 mins

It’s hard to imagine a more agreeable place to work than a charity bookshop. Staffed by civic-minded volunteers, the shelves groan with musty old paperbacks, lovingly donated in the hope they’ll find a new home and also raise money for good causes.

For Maria, the chance to work for one of Oxfam’s global outreach programmes, helping to end violence against women in the workplace, was a dream come true. And for a few years, it was — right up until the moment a fellow co-worker asked on an internal messageboard if Oxfam shops should ban the sale of J.K. Rowling’s books.

Three years ago, the Harry Potter author found herself accused of transphobia for having supported women who have “concerns around single-sex spaces”. During a discussion on Oxfam’s intranet, Maria had come to the defence of Britain’s most popular living author, asking for evidence of Rowling’s supposed transphobia. It was a decision that prompted a gruelling internal investigation, one in which Maria struggled to clear her name, led to her having a nervous breakdown and leaving both her job and the country.

Oxfam eventually offered a grovelling apology for the “procedural mistakes” that caused Maria such upset, but she is still struggling to make sense of it all. Speaking for the first time about the episode, she reveals: “My life has been torn apart. It drove me to a breakdown, I lost my confidence and, worst of all, I began to doubt myself.”

What Maria endured is part of a wider woke culture in the charitable sector, where female employees are silenced and treated like bigots for believing that sex-based rights matter. Certainly, Maria is so convinced that her career remains in danger — that any woman accused of transphobia will be blacklisted by much of the charitable sector, even when they have been exonerated — that she has agreed to speak to UnHerd under a pseudonym. “This will hang over me for the rest of my life,” she says. For decades, Oxfam — which was formed in 1942 to send food supplies to starving mothers and children in Nazi-occupied Greece — was one of the UK’s most respected charities, providing international aid to end hardship around the globe. But in recent years, its reputation has been tarnished. In 2018, evidence emerged that senior staff had paid survivors of the 2010 Haiti earthquake for sex, and that the use of prostitutes during the relief effort was covered up by the charity, allegations that Oxfam denies.

It was Maria’s concern for vulnerable women that first drew her to work for Oxfam: “I have experienced rape and domestic violence in the past, so I wanted to help others in the same situation.” Born in Spain, where she had worked as a pre-school teacher and volunteered at a sexual assault centre, she moved to the UK in 2017.

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“I loved my job,” says Maria, “being able to see how Oxfam’s work improves the lives of other women and children.” Three years after joining the charity, she was promoted to a co-ordinating role within the women’s rights team, whose remit was to ensure that female equality was reflected in Oxfam’s work.

She realised almost immediately how impossible that aim would be, given the growing dominance of a pro-trans mindset within Oxfam. Along with many other charities and institutions, it had capitulated to gender-based ideals, ones that asserts that “trans women are women” and that the categories of male and female are on a spectrum, rather than biological realities. On the advice of Stonewall — the discredited charity whose workplace diversity scheme sought to “recognise and celebrate the efforts of leading employers to advance LGBT inclusion” — Oxfam advised its employees to state their pronouns in meetings and on correspondence. “It was regularly using Stonewall materials to advise staff on LGBTQ+ inclusion in the workplace, with a heavy emphasis on transgender ideology above all else.”

Maria says that she initially toed the party line on the matter, staying silent when trans issues were discussed. “But then I began to see how women’s rights were attacked, particularly because it was obvious that single-sex spaces, such as rape crisis centres, were labelled as ‘anti-trans’.”

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Oxfam staff were invited to join company-wide online groups related to their interests, and Maria joined the LGBTQ+ group. In September 2020, a charity shop manager asked the group: “What is your opinion on selling J.K. Rowling books?” The employee, who is a transwoman, worried that the writer’s latest thriller, Troubled Blood, written under her pseudonym Robert Galbraith, might be “highly transphobic”. She wondered whether it might be covered by Oxfam’s “unsuitable for sale” policy.

Several staff engaged with the forum thread, widening the debate to include Rowling’s suitability as an Oxfam-stocked author, and added their concerns about her supposed transphobia, until Maria asked the question: “Can you explain why she is transphobic or why the book is transphobic?” When her query went unanswered, Maria went on to express concerns about banning books by “one of the most important woman writers in the UK”, before adding: “Actually, we are selling books from paedophiles and rapists. We are selling religious books. Stopping selling something we don’t like is called censorship and is the opposite of freedom of speech.”

The manager then left the conversation, and Maria thought that was the end of the matter. “She had said she was uncomfortable with the conversation and did not want to discuss it any further.” But following the exchange, Maria discovered she had been labelled in private chats as a transphobic bigot by other members of the LGBTQ+ group. Another manager sent her private messages, suggesting that Maria could lose her job after posting her comments. “They felt threatening to me,” says Maria. “She said my views were ‘incredible’, and that she would be reporting me. There is absolutely no way I am anti-trans. I am merely pro-women’s rights.”

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In the next few days, members of the LGBTQ+ group encouraged colleagues to complain about the discussion, stating that “transphobia is not tolerated here”. “They did not name me, but it was obvious who they were referring to,” says Maria. Next, a petition signed by 70 staff members was sent to all staff via the intranet, calling for Oxfam’s leadership to “take a stand” and “communicate a zero-tolerance approach to transphobia”.

Senior management replied to the petition authors, saying: “No one in our organisation should be subjected to hate speech, discrimination or other forms of harm” and “It is of great concern that members of the wider LGBTQIA+ community have felt intimidated by workplace conversations.” Oxfam’s CEO got involved, and gave a “no-debate” steer, adding: “We value the experience of our trans and non-binary colleagues, friends and partners and we do not expect their experience to be debated in our workplace.”

Three days later, Maria was invited to a meeting with her line manager and a member of Human Resources and told that she was under investigation because of her “transphobic comments”. Maria says: “They should have told me what the actual topic of the meeting was, and I could have brought a union representative with me. I apologised for upsetting anyone and tried to outline the rationale for my views and beliefs, but they refused to accept it.” Signed off sick with anxiety and depression, Maria felt alone and scared of losing her job, particularly in the middle of a pandemic. “All my family and relatives were in Spain and the borders were closed.”

Six weeks later, two days before Christmas, Maria learned that she’d been found guilty of misconduct and was issued with a final warning. Oxfam told Maria that her comments online “breached the requirement of the Code of Conduct to treat all persons with respect and dignity”, and reminded her that “transgender people are protected from discrimination under the Equality Act 2010”. The letter did not give a definition of transphobia or say how her posts were transphobic. Refusing to accept that finding, Maria appealed. “As a woman I have always had to fight for everything,” she says. “I knew that if they beat me then they were trampling on all of us.”

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Three months later, Maria was informed she had lost her appeal. The letter informing her of this decision also offered, for the first time, a definition of transphobia (not for want of asking): “Oxfam refers to Stonewall definitions to support our understanding, which states transphobia is the ‘fear or dislike of someone based on the fact they are trans’.” Feeling she was left with no choice but to resign, Maria took Oxfam to an employment tribunal. “I became determined that this should not happen to another woman,” she says.

Maria claimed constructive dismissal and belief discrimination. In July last year, during judicial mediation, both parties agreed to settle, with Oxfam issuing a public apology for its handling of the process. “We believe that each member of our community has a right to their own religious or philosophical beliefs, including the belief that ‘sex is immutable’ and ‘sex is important’. We acknowledge that in dealing with your case and during the disciplinary process we made mistakes. We acknowledged that it was not appropriate to give you a final written warning, and we would like to offer our sincere apologies for the upset that this has caused you.”

Earlier this year, Oxfam updated its language guide, which is an internal document advising staff how to speak about its work. The document includes the instruction that, rather than using the phrases “biological male” and “biological female”, “AMAB and AFAB” (assigned male/female at birth), should be used instead; and when talking about “expectant mothers”, use the phrase “people who become pregnant”.

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“I hope every single woman, especially those stronger and richer than me, fight every time this happens within the charity sector,” Maria says. “Oxfam is supposed to be protecting women and girls in the most vulnerable situations all over the world, and this ideology will ruin it.”

In response, an Oxfam spokesperson said: “We are sorry for the procedural mistakes we made in the handling of this case and we have apologised to the individual concerned. We fully support both an individual’s right to hold religious and philosophical beliefs and a person’s right to have their identity respected, regardless of their gender identity and expression, sex, or sexuality. We believe LGBTQIA+ rights are human rights.”

Now back in Spain, Maria has just finished an internship at a refugee camp in Greece, with the aim of a career in humanitarian work. “I lost so many friends,” she tells me. “I lost my job. My mental health suffered. Enforcing the views of the trans lobby, at all costs, seems more important to Oxfam than meeting their actual charitable aims.”

She says she often thinks of the author who changed the course of her life — and believes the way Rowling has been vilified for simply supporting and defending the rights of women who have suffered domestic abuse and rape is proof that misogyny has no limits. “No matter how much money or power you have achieved, if you are a woman, you will always be a target,” says Maria. “I fought my case so that all women know they can fight, and win, against this crazed ideology.”

Julie Bindel is an investigative journalist, author, and feminist campaigner. Her latest book is Feminism for Women: The Real Route to Liberation. She also writes on Substack.bindelj

A Review of Research on Women’s Use of Violence With Male Intimate Partners

Suzanne C. Swan, PhD, Laura J. Gambone, MA, Jennifer E. Caldwell, MA, Tami P. Sullivan, PhD, and David L. Snow, PhD

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This article provides a review of research literature on women who use violence with intimate partners. The central purpose is to inform service providers in the military and civilian communities who work with domestically violent women. The major points of this review are as follows: (a) women’s violence usually occurs in the context of violence against them by their male partners; (b) in general, women and men perpetrate equivalent levels of physical and psychological aggression, but evidence suggests that men perpetrate sexual abuse, coercive control, and stalking more frequently than women and that women also are much more frequently injured during domestic violence incidents; (c) women and men are equally likely to initiate physical violence in relationships involving less serious “situational couple violence,” and in relationships in which serious and very violent “intimate terrorism” occurs, men are much more likely to be perpetrators and women victims; (d) women’s physical violence is more likely than men’s violence to be motivated by self-defense and fear, whereas men’s physical violence is more likely than women’s to be driven by control motives; (e) studies of couples in mutually violent relationships find more negative effects for women than for men; and (f ) because of the many differences in behaviors and motivations between women’s and men’s violence, interventions based on male models of partner violence are likely not effective for many women.

Keywords: women’s violence, women’s aggression, partner abuse, domestic violence

How you gonna love me, hurt me, and abuse me at the same time? You can’t love me and abuse me.1

A sizable minority of individuals arrested for domestic violence each year in the United States is female (Miller, 2005). For example, a study conducted in Tennessee found that 16% of those arrested for intimate partner violence were female (Feder & Henning, 2005); in Concord, New Hampshire, women comprised 35% of those arrested (Miller, 2005). Many of these women are court-mandated to receive services, such as a batterer intervention program or anger management program (Miller, 2005). The military also provides services for a large number of women identified as committing physical abuse against a spouse. One study of 2,991 Air Force personnel who committed physical abuse against a spouse found that 23% of the offenders were female (Brewster, Milner, Mollerstrom, Saha, & Harris, 2002). Another study of reports of spouse abuse in the Army Central Registry from 1989 to 1997 found that 33% of persons identified as domestic violence offenders were women (McCarroll et al., 1999).


The literature review and the data presented here provide important information for individuals providing services and interventions to women who are violent toward intimate partners. To a great extent, women who are violent are also victims of violence from their male partners. In addition, women are more likely than men to be injured during domestic violence incidents and to suffer more severe injuries. Thus, safety issues are paramount for women who are domestically violent.

In some cases, women may be perpetrating as much or more physical violence as their partners, but their partners may be committing other types of abuse that are not always assessed, such as sexual abuse or coercive control. We recommend that service providers assess not just physical violence but all types of abuse that the woman has perpetrated and that her partner may have perpetrated against her. Such an assessment may reveal, for example, that a woman’s physical violence is in response to her partner’s attempts to coercively control her. In this case, interventions to promote behavioral change in both partners would be necessary for the abuse to stop.

Because of the many differences in behaviors and motivations between men’s and women’s violence, as discussed here, interventions based on models of male violence against women may not be effective for many women (Feder & Henning, 2005; Hamberger, 2005; Kernsmith, 2005). Gender-specific interventions tailored to the needs of women who are violent are more likely to be successful in creating behavior change.

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February 28th 2024

It Can Only Get Worse – by R J Cook

Fantasy writer turned Crime Writer J K Rowking has an interesting obsession with transsexuals. She is back again, jumping at the chance of portraying all transsexuals as perverts, rapists and murderers. So out she comes with the line that Scarlet Blake’s vile crimes are ‘not our crimes.’ By this she means they are not the sort of crimes a cis female would commit – but all men could. There are too many examples to the contrary to list against this same old Rowling precious bigotry. Suffice it to say that the terrible murder of trans teenager Brianna Ghey is testament to the evil that teen female Scarlett Jenkinson proved capable of.

It is implicit in Rowling’s latest attack on us trans people that all of us are implicated in the case of the Scarlet Blake atrocities. It is also implicit that Rowling sees women as all part of a benign blob at the mercy of a blob of evil violent men. It also appears to be the case that Rowling seems oblivious of the fact that Blake is a member of an ethnic minority. This is because to say so would be the sort of hate crime Rowling needs to avoid. But hate crimes, like the one her attitude spreads and threatens genuine trans females, had much to do with Blake organising and helping to execute in the grotesque murder of young Brianna, are acceptable. The moronic masses with a worthless excuse for identity are vulnerable to the media amplified pronouncements of the person who gave the world ‘Harry Potter.’

Nor does Rowling wish to confront the reality that Scarlet Blake has had no bona fide expert assessment or transsexual treatment. Thus, Blake has unfettered male genitals and the testosterone to go with it. Theresa May and her Scottish PM, Nicola Sturgeon, counterpart trivialised sex change by making it a matter of self identification – effectively defining a delusional state of mind. This suits bigots like Rowling. The success of her dreadful stereotypical violence filled Potter books is testament to the nation and wider western world’s poor literary tastes. Rowling’s crime books also pander to her prejudice where a trans man in women’s clothes makes a perfect suspect. It is very odd that she produces this pulp fiction using a man’s name, Robert Galbraith.

The common element in this tale of the two killer Scarletts is that they are both tales derived from the feral world of feral film and the Dark Net. People like bourgeois Rowling and the TERFS have been laying down the laws of feminism for too long. They feed into an elite run top down system that has brainwashed women into even abandoning or shutting away their sons for careers ( sic ) feeding oversize egos way beyond their brain power and potential. All they see and hear around them has to be shrunk down to fit the lack of space inside their heads. These women date and partner with trophy airheaded men, so desperate that they carry on where their daddies left off, pandering to and making them worse. When women tire of these imbeciles, they make excuses for themselves labelling all men as being the same. In this nightmare world we plunge toward World War Three, our leaders more concerned with the Royal Family’s health scares, policing language and defining laws of social contact in broken societies than what has really gone wrong and why it can only get worse.

J.K Rowling is asserting that all transsexuals must be seen as owning the perverted crimes of Scarlet Blake. Genuine transsexuals are a major threat, cause of offence and competition for the cis woman feninist blob, where they are more than equal and never responsible for their mistakes. Rowling wants all transsexuals identified and collectively punished. She defines all that is wrong with feminism, its bigotry and institutionalised intolerance that did so much to inform the killers of Brianna Ghey. They are not just above the law, they are the law..

R J Cook


JK Rowling criticises Sky News for referring to cat killer as woman: ‘I’m so sick of this’

‘This is not a woman. These are #NotOurCrimes’ she wrote before facing online backlash

Four months before the killing Blake live-streamed killing a cat and putting it in a blender having been inspired by the hit Netflix series 'Don't F*** with Cats'

Four months before the killing Blake live-streamed killing a cat and putting it in a blender having been inspired by the hit Netflix series ‘Don’t F*** with Cats’

BMW worker Mr Carreno (pictured) had been on a night out when he was approached by Blake

BMW worker Mr Carreno (pictured) had been on a night out when he was approached by Blake

Netflix true crime documentary Don't F*** with Cats tells the story of how Luka Magnotta, who killed kittens before murdering a student, was brought to justice

Netflix true crime documentary Don’t F*** with Cats tells the story of how Luka Magnotta, who killed kittens before murdering a student, was brought to justice

Blake had admitted dissecting the animal, removing the fur and skin and placing it in a blender but blames her former partner Ashlynn Bell, pictured

Blake had admitted dissecting the animal, removing the fur and skin and placing it in a blender but blames her former partner Ashlynn Bell, pictured 


JK Rowling hits out at cat killer being classed as a woman1.9k

The victim’s family sat through hours of distressing evidence as prosecutors described how Blake smashed Carreno over the head with a vodka bottle rendering his helpless and then strangled him.

After the guilty verdict, Jorge’s devastated family who had travelled from Spain to attend the trial paid tribute to ‘beloved son and brother’.

Sick picture captures moment trans killer puts cat in a blender before carrying out twisted murder which bares harrowing similarities to Luka Magnotta’s real-life crime 

A sick picture captures transgender killer Scarlet Blake relishing the moment she puts a cat in a blender before carrying out a twisted murder in a chilling echo of a Netflix true crime documentary. 

Blake, 26, live-streamed the killing and dissection of a cat four months before she targeted Jorge Martin Carreno, 30, as he walked home from a night out in Oxford in July 2021.

She had admitted dissecting the animal, removing the fur and skin and placing it in a blender but blames her former partner Ashlynn Bell.

The court previously heard Blake had an ‘extreme interest in death and in harm’ and killed the family pet after watching a Netflix documentary called Don’t F*** With Cats: Hunting An Internet Killer.

In the programme a man, Luka Magnotta, kills kittens before filming a murder. 

Prosecutors had alleged the cat killing was relevant to the murder trial as it shows Blake has a ‘disturbing interest in what it would be like to harm a living creature’.

Blake deliberately set out to kill after previously revelling in the slaughter and dissection of a neighbour’s cat.

While her death obsessed partner Bell watched from her home in the US, Blake live streamed cutting up the cat while it was still alive.

A vet determined it would have been in extreme pain until its heart was ripped out. 

Police would later find the heart in a trinket box that Blake kept as a souvenir. 

It was only after Blake’s arrest in August 2023 they discovered the cat killing video and her fetish for strangulation and they launched Operation Ingmar. 

They said: ‘The loss of Jorge has left an open wound in the heart of his family but also in all those who had the pleasure of knowing him.

‘This loss feels like a traumatic, devastating blow, leaving a void impossible to fill. Going through the pain of losing a son, a brother, under such tragic and unjustified circumstances, is a trial no family should face.

‘Today his absence leaves a deep wound in our hearts.’

Dressed in a black suit and flanked by two prison guards she stared ahead from the dock and did not look at the jury.

Her mother Chen, who seated a few feet away, showed no emotion as her daughter was found guilty.

Judge Martin Chamberlain told Blake she will be sentenced Blake on Monday.

The judge thanked the jury and said they wanted to seek help over the distressing evidence they had heard during the trial they should do so.

Blake had admitted dissecting the animal, removing the fur and skin and placing it in a blender but blames her former partner Ashlynn Bell.

The court previously heard Blake had an ‘extreme interest in death and in harm’ and killed the family pet after watching a Netflix documentary called Don’t F*** With Cats: Hunting An Internet Killer. In the programme a man, Luka Magnotta, kills kittens before filming a murder.

His body was pushed into the River Cherwell where he drowned.

Prosecutors said Blake had deliberately set out to kill after previously revelling in the slaughter and dissection of a neighbour’s cat.

While her death obsessed partner Bell watched from her home in the US, Blake live streamed cutting up the cat while it was still alive.

A vet determined it would have been in extreme pain until its heart was ripped out. Police would later find the heart in a trinket box that Blake kept as a souvenir.

Jurors have also seen videos of the defendant and her partner engaging in consensual strangulation with ligatures.

Prosecutors had alleged the cat killing was relevant to the murder trial as it shows Blake has a ‘disturbing interest in what it would be like to harm a living creature’.

Mr Martin Carreno, who is from Spain and worked for BMW at their Cowley plant, had been on a night out with work colleagues in Oxford city centre before he died.

He had been out drinking with friends to celebrate the lifting of Covid lockdown restrictions in July 2021.

Unfamiliar with the streets of Oxford and separated from his friends, Blake came across him sitting on a bench around 4am.

CCTV shows Blake – wearing a heavy-duty coat, face mask and carrying a backpack – walking around the city centre before approaching Mr Martin Carreno, who was sat down.

The sixth form school dropout persuaded Mr Carreno to follow her to isolated beauty spot Parsons Pleasure overlooking the River Cherwell. CCTV captured Carreno as he was led to his death but there were no cameras at the riverbank where he met his death.

Blake had claimed Mr Carreno was alive when she left him there to walk home. 

His body was found by dog walkers two days later with a postmortem showing signs of blunt force trauma to the head and strangulation.

Police believe Blake would have got away with the sadistic murder had she not later had a bitter falling out with Bell

Prosecutors say Scarlet Blake, 25, was searching the streets of Oxford looking for someone to kill, and found Jorge Martin Carreno, 30, who was unable to find his way home

The footage shows Mr Carreno, a Spanish national, trying to find his way home, and not realising he has dropped his wallet

Eventually Mr Carreno is seen sitting down in Radcliffe Square, where Blake later finds him and shares her vodka with him

Blake even took trophy photos at the spot where she killed the 30-year-old BMW engineer – and sent them to her partner Ashlynn Bell (pictured)

Despite being the tipping point in the case by identifying the murder – potentially crucial witness Bell – who herself was obsessed with guns and death – told police that she was too mentally damaged to give evidence in court Read in full: Family pay tribute to ‘beloved brother and son’ Jorge Carreno and say their devastating loss has ‘left an open wound in the heart’ of all who knew him

‘We as a family, wish to pay tribute to Jorge, our beloved son and brother, an extraordinary being full of passion and kindness.

Jorge was not only an exemplary child but also an exceptional being. He was distinguished by his incredible affection, friendliness, and his ability to give himself fully to others.

Jorge’s innate curiosity and creativity drove him to explore, learn, and experiment tirelessly. He studied electrical engineering, where his dedication and passion were evident in every project he undertook, manifesting in a deep commitment to innovation.

He dreamed of a future where he could make a difference with his skills and ambitions, aspiring to create and build a better world.

His life was imbued with love for music, photography, reading, and sports. He played the guitar skilfully and radiated kindness and humour among all those lucky enough to have known him.

Being a triplet brother, Jorge shared not only blood ties with his brothers but was also their best friend. His friends adored him.

He had an affable heart and sense of humour that filled every space with laughter and complicity. Jorge, with his caring and friendly nature, lit up any place, always spreading joy with his wit and contagious curiosity.

With a great sense of humour, his immense desire to live and enjoy life made him a special being.

Always ready to help and listen to others; he was above all, an incredibly good person. The loss of Jorge has left an open wound in the heart of his family but also in all those who had the pleasure of knowing him.

This loss feels like a traumatic, devastating blow, leaving a void impossible to fill.

Going through the pain of losing a son, a brother, under such tragic and unjustified circumstances, is a trial no family should face. Today his absence leaves a deep wound in our hearts. His life was stolen, cutting short his projects and dreams.

This tribute is a reminder of Jorge but also a call to justice. There can be no peace until justice is served.

We ask not only for justice for him but also for protection to prevent other people, other families, from suffering the immense pain caused by such cruel and senseless murders.

We extend our heartfelt thanks for the incredible support from family, friends, the police, and our lawyers during this tough time.

Your kindness, support and solidarity have been a guiding light in the pursuit of justice for Jorge, providing hope and showing immense respect to our family.

To those who offered comfort and helped honour Jorge’s memory, your generosity is deeply appreciated. Thank you for advocating for Jorge and standing with us.

May this inexplicable loss drive us to fight for a world where justice prevails and where we can build a safer future for everyone.

Every day, we will remember Jorge, his laughter, his joy, his zest for life, and all those unforgettable moments we shared. 

hank you for being part of this family; we feel fortunate to have had you in our lives. Thank you for teaching us to live with heart and soul. Jorge, you will always be present in our hearts.’ 

His death remained unsolved for almost two years until police received a call from Ashlynn Bell who revealed she had a ‘murder confession’ from Blake.

She also produced a combat jacket worn by Blake on the night of the killing and captured on CCTV.

Despite her evidence being crucial she was never called as a witness due to ‘serious mental issues’.

Blake admitted to making the confession after giving evidence in her own defence and claimed it was all made up to please Bell, a gun and death obsessed transexual.

She said they had talked about what it was like to kill someone and had wanted to impress Bell.

But following a falling out at Bell’s Colorado home she contacted police who flew to the US to take her statement.

She said they had talked about what it was like to kill someone and had wanted to impress Bell.

It was only after her arrest in August 2023 they discovered the cat killing video and her fetish for strangulation and they launched Operation Ingmar.

Prosecutors were worried that her appearance – and obsession withe guns and death – would derail their case.

The defendant told jurors she had falsely confessed to murdering Mr Martin Carreno because Miss Bell, who lives in the US, had wanted her to kill a person after the cat incident.

Referring to the alleged confession, Blake told the jury she had seen news reports of the body being found and created a fictitious story.

‘I told Ashlynn that I killed that person, I made up the details in a dramatic way,’ she said.

‘I told her I used a garotte that I made to try and remove the person’s head but it was more difficult than I would have imagined and then I dumped the body in the river which is what they are now pulling out.’

Blake has been on remand since her arrest last August and been held in a male prison -despite identifying as female as she had not undergone surgery to remove her male genitals.

Blake’s mother Chen, a medical researcher, attended every day of her daughter’s trial but declined to comment.

After the guilty verdict, senior investigating officer Detective Superintendent Jon Capps said: ‘Today’s verdict marks the end of a long and complex investigation. 

‘I know that many will want to focus on the actions and behaviour of this defendant.

‘There are several aspects of this case that have been truly disturbing to see, hear and deal with.

‘This defendant showed calculated cruelty. The acts Blake has been convicted of are barbaric and chilling. The murder was premeditated with total disregard and distain for life.

‘Thankfully crimes such as these are incredibly rare.

‘I want rather to focus on Jorge and his family and pay tribute to them and the enormous dignity they have shown throughout this ordeal.

He continued: ‘Jorge was enjoying a night out with friends and had his life in front of him.

‘He had made plans, he was happy and in the words of his friend, ‘ready to enjoy every single drop of his life’. That has been taken away from him.’

‘He clearly meant so much to so many. It is Jorge’s life that will be remembered over and above the actions of this defendant.’

‘Whilst our investigation can never ease the pain felt by the family, I hope that this outcome at least gives a sense of justice and has given a voice to Jorge, whose life will forever be remembered by all those he meant so much to.’

The police investigation will feature in a documentary later this year called ‘Catching a Killer.’

Alison Morgan KC, prosecuting, told the jury: 'He died because he encountered the defendant on that night'

Alison Morgan KC, prosecuting, told the jury: ‘He died because he encountered the defendant on that night’

Prosecutors say Blake had a fetish for strangulation and was obsessed with violence and death. Jurors were previously shown a collage of nine female killers that was saved by Blake

Prosecutors say Blake had a fetish for strangulation and was obsessed with violence and death. Jurors were previously shown a collage of nine female killers that was saved by Blake


J.K. Rowling lashes out at media outlet for not ID’ing killer as transgender: ‘This is not a woman’

The “Harry Potter” author, long called out by the trans community and allies, posted that she was “so sick of this s—” after a transgender woman sentenced for murder was referred to as a woman.

J.K. Rowling is once again voicing her controversial opinions on the transgender community, hitting back at a gruesome Sky News report that identifies a murderer who is trans as a woman.

“I’m so sick of this shit,” Rowling wrote alongside a news report about Scarlet Blake, a transgender woman found guilty of the murder of a man four months after she filmed herself torturing a cat and putting the animal in a blender. “This is not a woman. These are #NotOurCrimes.”

Rowling also shared a post by The Guardian writer Louise Tickle, who called out her own publication for not identifying Blake as a transgender woman in its trial coverage. The Harry Potter author added in a follow-up: “1. Crime statistics are rendered useless if violent and sexual attacks committed by men are recorded as female crimes. 2. Activists are already clamouring for this sadistic killer to be incarcerated in a women’s prison. 3. Ideologically-driven misinformation is not journalism.”

Rowling first courted controversy for stances that have been widely perceived as transphobic in 2020, when she tweeted, among other comments, that “if sex isn’t real, there’s no same-sex attraction. If sex isn’t real, the lived reality of women globally is erased.” She claimed early last year in a podcast interview that her remarks have been “profoundly” “misunderstood” and that she had little concern over a tarnished legacy.

“You know, what a pompous way to live your life walking around thinking, ‘What will my legacy be?’ Whatever, I’ll be dead,” Rowling said. “I care about now. I care about the living.”

Rowling’s comments over the years have been condemned by notable Harry Potter actors, including Daniel Radcliffe, Emma Watson, Rupert Grint, and Eddie Redmayne, while Helena Bonham Carter and Ralph Fiennes have come to her defense. While much of the Potter fandom have shunned the author, Warner Bros. retained Rowling as executive producer for the upcoming Harry Potter TV series.

Casey Bloys, chairman and CEO of HBO and Max content, evaded questions about the controversy at a press presentation early last year. “That’s a very online conversation, very nuanced and complicated and not something we’re going to get into,” Bloys said. “Our priority is what’s on the screen. Obviously, the Harry Potter story is incredibly affirmative and positive and about love and self-acceptance. That’s our priority — what’s on screen.”

February 27th 2024

Horse trainer ‘killed husband while on the phone to her

A hypnotist horse trainer fatally stabbed her husband in the back “in a fit of temper” and left the knife in him as he followed her through the fields of their North Devon home, a murder trial has been told.

A hypnotist horse trainer fatally stabbed her husband in the back “in a fit of temper” and left the knife in him as he followed her through the fields of their North Devon home, a murder trial has been told.13 hours ago

The Timeshttps://www.thetimes.co.uk › article › horse-trainer-killed…


Horse trainer ‘stabbed husband to death while on phone call with her daughter’, trial hears

Comment The standard female defence here is that the man killed was a long term domestic and sex abuser. Feminism has an attitude thar defines legal reponses and so the maw.

R J Cook

February 23rd 2024

Nonbinary student dead following beating by group in Oklahoma high school bathroom

Chase Lawrence

Nonbinary student dead following beating by group in Oklahoma high school bathroom

The Late Nex Benedict

16-year-old Nex Benedict was cornered by three older female students and suffered severe head injuries, passing away the following day. The attack takes place amid a far-right campaign against LGBTQ students led by the Republican Party.

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February 11th 2024

Feminism & Elite Vested Interests Dodging the Truth of White Infertility In the Age Of The Big Police State – a comment on the following.

Feminism is an aggressive cock withering ball breaking dangerous ideology arguing that laws protecting this Nazi style prejudice is a human right. Feminist are led in this crazed white man hating cult by the ‘uni girl’ and ‘me too ‘gender fluid air heads and funded by the super rich parasites like George Soros who whipped up insurrection when Trump won the 2016 Presidential election. They kept this up for Trump’s entire term of office.

Modern white women and the black ones they are forever liberating, are self centred egomaniacs putting careers and power grabbing first. Even if they have them, children are the last things on their mind beyond treating them as status synbols and meal tickets. Women admire and love themselves too much, They are not romantic which is why so many men focus their hopes and illusions on transsexual women like me. I am pleased that old timer sports star big girl Sharon Davies recognises that trans women like me are superior in sport compared to women. Logically the same goes for manual labour. I saw no women labouring alongside me during my days in the then dangerous construction industry. By contrast women were the majority of my teaching colleagues burning with enthusiasm pushing the white man hating feminist and anti racist cause in the classroom.

So it is no wonder so many little boys want to be little girls – all the more so considering how many fathers have been driven out of the marital home onto the streets – assuming they were ever allowed to be there in the first place.

TV after watershed advertising parades adverts for Viagra with cartoon images of sexually frustrated women petulantly demanding the right to marital and partner sex. Reversing the roles placing similarly frustrated men juxtaposed with frigid women in bed with their work laptops .whingeing that their women should take a sex drug cum female viagra ( money is the only viagra that works for modern women ), would elicit feminist Nazi cries of rape. The world does not have to make sense in this horribly sterile feminised world.

Donald Trump’s experience with E J Carroll should warn any man to keep their distance from CIS women.

I took this picture outside ASDA Milton Keynes, on a freezing cold January 18th morning. This man, who was somebody’s son conceived in a moment of aninal passion, had grown up in a broken home and was kicked out by his partmer when she found a new boyfriend.

Only a Hobo

Song by Bob Dylan

As I was out walking on a corner one day,
I spied an old hobo, in a doorway he lay.
His face was all grounded in the cold sidewalk floor
And I guess he’d been there for the whole night or more.

Only a hobo, but one more is gone
Leavin’ nobody to sing his sad song
Leavin’ nobody to carry him home
Only a hobo, but one more is gone

A blanket of newspaper covered his head,
As the curb was his pillow, the street was his bed.
One look at his face showed the hard road he’d come
And a fistful of coins showed the money he bummed.

Only a hobo, but one more is gone
Leavin’ nobody to sing his sad song
Leavin’ nobody to carry him home
Only a hobo, but one more is gone

Does it take much of a man to see his whole life go down,
To look up on the world from a hole in the ground,
To wait for your future like a horse that’s gone lame,
To lie in the gutter and die with no name?

Only a hobo, but one more is gone
Leavin’ nobody to sing his sad song
Leavin’ nobody to carry him home
Only a hobo, but one more is gone

R J Cook

Is Infertility on the Rise?

June 16th, 2022

Written by Dr. Sara Barton, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist and infertility specialist at CCRM Fertility of Colorado

Infertility is defined as being unable to get pregnant after 1 year of unprotected sex if women under 35 years of age, or 6 months in women 35 years and older. There are many reasons why women and couples can experience infertility. Problems with ovulation, fallopian tubes, gynecologic conditions such as endometriosis or fibroids, and concerns with sperm count and sperm quality can all have an effect on fertility.

Lately, it may seem that more and more people are going through infertility or fertility treatments. Turns out, there’s some truth to that. Here, we’ll discuss statistics related to infertility, why infertility may be increasing, and how you can help boost your own fertility.

Is infertility on the rise?

Infertility rates are rising, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). There used to be a worldwide average of 5 children per woman in 1950, but in 2020, that average has fallen to 2 children according to the United Nations. In the United States, about 11% of women and 9% of men of childbearing age have infertility.

Infertility statistics worldwide

The World Health Organization states about 60 to 80 million couples worldwide have infertility.

Southern and Eastern Europe and East Asia have some of the lowest fertility rates, with 1.5 children per woman.

On average, 1 in 4 couples in developing countries experiences infertility. Data indicates that assisted reproductive technology (ART) has increased 5% to 10% annually.

Infertility statistics in the United States

The CDC states in heterosexual women 15 to 49 years who have never given birth, about 19%, experience infertility.

A woman is less likely to experience infertility if she has had at least one birth. About 6% of these married women 15 to 49 years have infertility.

Infertility statistics by sex

About 10% of women ages 15 to 44 in the United States have infertility, but infertility affects men and women close to equally. When broken down, infertility statistics by sex are as follows:

  • One-third of couples with infertility have a problem with the man.
  • One-third of couples with infertility have a problem with the woman.
  • One-third of couples have a mix of both.

Continued Reading: Dr. Aaron Styler discusses how to increase sperm naturally.

Infertility statistics by age

For healthy couples age 30 and younger, 40% to 60% can get pregnant within 3 months of trying. By the time they’re in their 30s however, women’s fertility decreases by half as when they’re in their early 20s.

In fact, by the time a woman is 35, fertility decreases exponentially. This is because women are born with a limited egg supply that starts decreasing even before the first period start and this decrase is very rapid after the mid 30s. Issues of egg quality and problems with the genetic chromosomal makeup of the eggs also become prominent in the 30s and 40s.

Infertility statistics by race and ethnicity

The CDC doesn’t break down infertility data by race. However, data shows non-Hispanic Black married women were more likely to experience infertility than non-Hispanic white married women.

A 2019 study showed African American women ages 33 to 44 are twice as likely to experience infertility compared to Caucasian women in the United States. The study authors noted while infertility rates are decreasing in Caucasian women, they’re increasing in African American women.

Even if states have infertility coverage, care is still used significantly more by non-Hispanic white women who have high socioeconomic and educational status.

Why is infertility on the rise?

There are several reasons why infertility seems to be rising in women and couples.

Couples are having children later

About 13% of couples have trouble getting pregnant when the woman is age 30 and younger. That number increases to 22% when the woman is 30 to 39.

The main reason fertility decreases with age is because the quality of a woman’s eggs declines as she gets older. And, as women are born with all the eggs they will ever have, older women have fewer eggs. The natural aging process also means higher chances of miscarriage and having a child with a genetic condition.

The concern isn’t only with women, as aging can also affect men’s fertility, according to the CDC. There can be more challenges in achieving pregnancy if the male partner is over age 40. Research also shows declining sperm quality in men over age 40 can contribute to having a child with a genetic abnormality.

Our environment affects our fertility

In men, exposing the genitals to prolonged heat such as frequent saunas and hot tubs can affect short-term sperm production. Radiation exposure can also affect fertility for men and women.

In men, certain medications can have a negative effect on fertility, including:

  • Bicalutamide
  • Cimetidine
  • Cyproterone
  • Flutamide
  • Ketoconazole
  • Spironolactone
  • Finasteride

Various toxins in the environment can also affect both male and female fertility. These toxins can include:

  • Pesticides
  • Mercury
  • Lead
  • Cadmium
  • Bisphenol A
  • Flame retardants
  • Phthalates

Lifestyle factors can affect fertility

There are factors in day-to-day life that can have an impact on fertility, including:

  • Smoking: Smoking tobacco can damage sperm, affect reproductive hormones, and make it more difficult to get pregnant.
  • Alcohol use: Alcohol has an effect on both men’s and women’s fertility. For women, since no amount of alcohol is considered safe in pregnancy, it’s recommended to moderate alcohol use when trying to conceive.
  • Weight fluctuations: Too much exercise and extreme weight loss can cause a condition known as functional hypothalamic amenorrhea (FHA) where a woman can stop menstruating, or having their period. A high BMI can lead to problems with ovulation and irregular periods.
  • Stress: High levels of stress may lead to irregular or absent periods.

Continued Reading: Learn 8 ways to increase your optimal fertility.

Lifestyle factors can be controlled, and once modifications have been made, many people are able to become pregnant. Quitting smoking, limiting alcohol, maintaining a healthy weight, and managing stress can all help move couples towards better fertility health.

If you have concerns about getting pregnant, don’t hesitate to talk with your healthcare provider. While it’s important to be as healthy as possible before you conceive, you don’t need to wait to seek out help and start a conversation with your doctor. Call us today to make an appointment with a CCRM Fertility specialist.

Comment Viagra is a rape drug to cause dangerous invuluntary erections, covered by the feminist wisdom ( sic ) that women have a right to sex whenever they want it and men do not. When anything nasty happens to men, the media and court response is that they asked for it. When it happens to women, they are automatically counted as truth telling victims.

We live in a world where sensitive men progressively choose the gay or transgender options. The latter is particularly disturbing to women, feminsists in partucular , like patronising J K Rowling – with their TERF wisdom that transsexuals are actually transvestites disguising themselves to get into female public toilets to rape them.

The reality of rape statistics is that for racial harmony, ethnic minority men & immigrants must not be counted openly. In otherwise cases rape has been redefined to include any form of inappropriate male to female contact. This is underpinned by the legal attitude of guilty until proven guilty.

Viagra is make up to hide the horrible and dangerous sexual reality and how dangerous it is for men. Laws against misogyny are crucial in reinforcing this liberal left bigotry.

R J Cook

Mr Ford said: “Whilst deeply serious and tragic, we say this is a simple case. She lost her temper, had an argument with her boyfriend when they were in drink, in a motorcar. Things became fraught, he got out, kicked a door, and she lost her cool and used the car as a weapon.”4 Dec 2023

Woman, 23, ‘used car as weapon to mow down & kill …The Sunhttps://www.thesun.co.uk › news › woman-run-over-kill…

4 Dec 2023 — A WOMAN used her car as a “weapon” to run over and kill her boyfriend after they rowed at a party, a court heard.

Sally Challen on years of abuse that led to killing of her husband

The mother of two who killed her abusive husband admits she regrets his death and says she is sorry for what happened.

Sally Challen on years of abuse that led to killing of her …Sky Newshttps://news.sky.com › story › sally-challen-i-wish-i-coul…

Penelope Jackson: Woman who murdered husband after ‘ …Sky Newshttps://news.sky.com › story › penelope-jackson-woman-…

28 Jun 2023 — Penelope Jackson was convicted of murdering David Jackson but claimed she lost control following years of physical and emotional abuse at …

Woman who murdered husband in birthday row after ‘years of …lbc.co.ukhttps://www.lbc.co.uk › news › penelope-jackson-husban…

29 Oct 2021 — A woman who stabbed her husband to death, claiming she “lost control” after he subjected her to years of abuse, has been jailed for life ..

February 8th 2024

There are many reasons why Sunak should go but this one is the pitz.

It would be simplistic to blame a series of apparently transphobic statements in him being a devout Hindu. However this religion has complex ideas on this and on homosexuality. While their concept of the third gender includes a few different groups in South Asia, the most common are the hijras. Hijras are often born male but look and dress in traditionally feminine ways. Many, but not all, choose to undergo a castration ceremony, removing their male genitalia as an offering to Hindu goddess Bahuchara Mata.

R J Cook

Female killiers know how to lie and know how to cry. Metro February 7th 2024

Female killiers knowq how to lie and know how to cry. Metro February 7th 2024

How I became a target in the gender-critical civil war
A small faction of activists won’t tolerate dissent
BY Andrew Doyle

A few nights ago, I attended a gathering at which friends and acquaintances were encouraged to mingle and chat. At one point I found myself discussing the films of Joseph L. Mankiewicz with a gentleman in advanced middle-age. I pointed out that I was very fond of Cleopatra and Sleuth, and that either one or the other should probably be seen as his best work. Almost immediately, my companion screamed: “Fuck you, his best film is All About Eve. You’re a brainless cunt and you should be killed.”

Of course, this didn’t actually happen, because people don’t talk like that in real life. Many do, however, engage in this way on social media, typically towards total strangers. This week I’ve been trending on X (or Twitter, as I stubbornly still call it) following a mass pile-on instigated by several gender-critical activists. This particular bombardment resulted in my decision to temporarily deactivate my Twitter account, to the glee of my critics and transactivists alike.

Having since been contacted by friends within the gender-critical movement, I have learned that many of them are exasperated by the “intolerant elements” within their community who seek to destroy anyone who does not conform to every single aspect of their worldview, even if it means that the cause is fatally undermined. They describe a “civil war” being waged by a small but intimidating minority who maintain that any slight point of disagreement is a form of heresy, that language has the capacity to shape reality, and that those found guilty of wrongspeak ought to be publicly shamed and alienated. Remind you of anyone?

This civil war within the gender-critical movement is, of course, a boon to the high priests of gender identity, those authoritarians who have been conducting a frighteningly effective campaign to reorganise society around the metaphysical belief that “gender” should take priority over sex when it comes to spaces, sports and human rights. Given that the stakes are so high, not least for women, children, and gay people, it might be worth considering what this in-fighting is all about and how it might be avoided in the future. In order to do this, I should first explain the background to this week’s furore.

I host a weekly show on GB News called Free Speech Nation, which explores all aspects of the culture wars and has a particular emphasis on the ongoing attacks on women’s rights in the name of “progress”. Even before last Sunday’s show had aired, I was contacted by regular viewers who had taken issue with me for inviting the trans writer and teacher Debbie Hayton to appear for an interview. As an admitted autogynephile — a heterosexual man who presents as a woman out of an erotic attraction to himself — Hayton is something of a hate figure for many in the movement. By conducting this interview, I was deemed guilty of “enabling” and “promoting perversion”, in spite of Hayton’s gender-critical beliefs.

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Further context is required here. The day before my show, a profile appeared in The Times in which the interviewer, Janice Turner, referred to Hayton with female pronouns. Turner clarified her reasoning in a tweet: “The issue of pronouns is becoming absolutist on BOTH sides. Stonewall demands even bearded rapists be called “she”, GC ultras refuse to call any trans woman “she”. I reject both positions. I never call male sex offenders she/her. But I will be courteous to those who respect women.”

For many, the issue of pronouns has become a red line in the gender wars, and Turner’s efforts at compromise are seen not only as wrongheaded, but traitorous. It is widely held that trans-identifying individuals must never be described as anything other than their true biological sex, and cries of “hold the line” are often heard. Not only are the likes of Turner demonised for attempting to find a middle ground, but they are also told that they have been “groomed” by the men who are insisting that other people’s language must be modified in deference to their sense of self.

This tactic, of suggesting that an opposing view is the result of a delusion, is common to all ideological movements. Marxist theorists have often dismissed unbelievers as suffering from “false consciousness”. Similarly, many transactivists insist that those of us who believe that sex is immutable have been “radicalised online”. Yet this is also the identical approach of those gender-critical campaigners who deny the individual agency of their comrades and claim they are the victims of “grooming”. I suppose it is easier to explain away disagreement as the product of some collective fantasy rather than accept that not everyone thinks the same way as you.

The inevitable firestorm following Turner’s piece provided the backdrop to my own interview with Hayton on Sunday night. Initial feedback was cordial and productive: many feminists were pleased that I had listened to their concerns and asked questions about the use of toilets, single-sex spaces, and a schools guidance policy that Hayton had co-authored for the teachers’ union NASUWT in 2017. There were also many critical comments, which I welcomed and took seriously.

The first signs of trouble occurred when one of my critics began repeatedly railing against “the gays” in her posts. She complained that I had used the pronoun “her” in relation to Debbie in one of the introductory pieces to camera (as it happens, this was simply because the producer had written it that way in the autocue). I explained that I use pronouns to denote biological sex, and certainly when it comes to reporting on the news, because I do not believe in gender identity. But I also said that when it comes to personal friends who identify as the opposite sex, I have occasionally adopted their preferred pronouns and names. I have done this to avoid needless distress, not to signal that I share their belief-system. It would be like bowing my head for a prayer at a friend’s family meal, even if I didn’t believe in their particular god.

I respect and understand criticisms of this approach. Women are facing the erosion of their spaces and rights, and this is being actuated by gender-identity ideology and the compelled use of pronouns. I have written previously about the need to resist this pressure to conform to pronoun declaration, and I am particularly vexed by the tendency of journalists to describe rapists, paedophiles and other male criminals as “she” or to use nonsensical phrases such as “her penis”.

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Therefore, I answered many of my critics by agreeing that my view may be flawed, and that I was open to persuasion regarding their “slippery slope” argument. It was only when multiple anonymous accounts starting branding me a liar, a grifter and a hater of women, and outright telling me to “fuck off” that I realised this was beginning to turn nasty.

One of my traducers claimed that I lacked credibility and integrity because I adhere to “a deranged homophobic, sexist ideology”, even though I have consistently and outspokenly opposed it over many years. This struck me as an absurd overreaction, the kind of “you’re either with us or against us” purity demand that one has come to expect in these tribalistic times.

From there, matters escalated at a dizzying rate. I was repeatedly accused of being a misogynist, something which I find odd, given that over the past few years I have covered the rising threats to women’s rights on my show with a tenacity that has been notably absent in other media outlets. Every week I have invited women to appear, including Helen Joyce, Maya Forstater, Jo Phoenix, Julie Bindel, Alka Sehgal Cuthbert, Milli Hill, Kellie-Jay Keen, Dr Jane Clare Jones, Jo Bartosch, Mara Yamauchi, Holly Lawford-Smith, Sarah Phillimore, Kate Coleman, Rosie Kay, Ayaan Hirsi Ali, and Sharron Davies. If my critics are correct, and I am indeed a rabid misogynist, surely I at least deserve some credit for going to such elaborate lengths to disguise it?

Many of my detractors took the view that my homosexuality was the issue. One self-declared feminist confessed to being “a raging homophobe” and wrote: “I don’t like gay men anymore. I think most of them are miso[gynist] pieces of shhh [sic] that mock women and platform AGPs”. Another was more direct: “The gays are definitely to blame as well. First off, sticking a penis inside a man’s asshole is unhealthy. If you can’t admit this then you are part of the problem.” Another went with “I hate men in general”, and then clarified her misandry in an oddly specific way: “Gay MEN. Straight MEN. White MEN. Black MEN. All MEN. I don’t discriminate. I view you all with equal amounts of derision”. Then there was an especially malicious attack from law scholar Dr Alessandra Asteriti, who called me a liar and resorted to the defamatory claim that my objective was to “harm women and children”.

Despite the onslaught, I should emphasise that this kind of sociopathic behaviour is far from typical in the gender-critical movement. Yes, there exists a small contingent who despise gay men and seek to bully and harass anyone who takes a different view. But this is most definitely not the norm, and the overwhelming majority of women I have encountered in this fight have been generous, compassionate and incredibly courageous in the face of threats and wholly unfounded accusations of “hate” and “transphobia”. It is only thanks to their hard work that we have seen a recent sea-change in public understanding of the dangers of this ideology.

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Naturally, at the time, I found it difficult to distinguish between legitimate criticisms and outright abuse. And once I started becoming defensive, it of course made matters worse. It’s always worth bearing in mind that, in the eye of a Twitter storm, one does not see individuals, but rather an army determined to see you crushed. At that point, nuance becomes impossible.

And while I am fully aware that most of those participating in the pile-on would have been appalled by the excesses of the few, that isn’t much consolation. This had all begun with one woman griping about “the gays” and ended hours later with complete strangers on my timeline discussing why gay men are so vile, invariably misogynistic, and have a tendency towards paedophilia (the most repugnant and common prejudice of them all). By the time someone posted an audio recording of one of my detractors saying that she would enjoy murdering gay men, I was out.

And of course, transactivists noticed the abuse I was receiving and were quick to weaponise the situation. One of them emailed me directly: “I don’t want to say ‘I told you so’ but… ha.” Many have since boasted on social media that the attacks were karma for my stupidity in associating with this brood of reactionaries. They have shared screenshots of the worst tweets and taken this as confirmation of what they have been alleging all along: that the gender-critical movement is a front for far-Right homophobes.

My experiences this week have certainly alerted me to a dark element within gender-critical circles, one that has become a source of considerable concern for many women in the fight. I have retreated from Twitter and instead launched a Substack, in the hope that I may continue these conversations with those who are able to remain civil even while robustly disagreeing. I now understand that serious discussions about this issue are simply not possible on Twitter, and my mental health has to come first.

For all that, gender-critical feminism remains an essential force in protecting our rights in these maddening times. The genuinely bigoted elements of the movement may be aberrations, but they are increasingly being perceived as the norm. If this cannot be rectified, it will prove a disaster not just for women and gay people, but for truth and sanity itself.

February 3rd 2024

Andrew Tate is a symptom, not the problem’: why young men are turning against feminism

Teachers describe a deterioration in behaviour and attitudes that has proved to be fertile terrain for misogynistic influencers

Heather StewartSat 3 Feb 2024 08.00 GMTLast modified on Sat 3 Feb 2024 08.02 GMT

“As soon as I mention feminism, you can feel the shift in the room; they’re shuffling in their seats.” Mike Nicholson holds workshops with teenage boys about the challenges of impending manhood. Standing up for the sisterhood, it seems, is the last thing on their minds.

When Nicholson says he is a feminist himself, “I can see them look at me, like, ‘I used to like you.’”

Once Nicholson, whose programme is called Progressive Masculinity, unpacks the fact that feminism means equal rights and opportunities for women, many of the boys with whom he works are won over.

“A lot of it is bred from misunderstanding and how the word is smeared,” he says.

But he is battling against what he calls a “dominance-based model” of masculinity. “These old-fashioned, regressive ideas are having a renaissance, through your masculinity influencers – your grifters, like Andrew Tate.”

The attitudes of young men came under further scrutiny this week after a survey suggested that 16-29-year-olds are more negative about feminism than men over 60 – and one in five had a positive view of Tate, the self-professed “misogynist” influencer.

Prof Bobby Duffy of Ipsos, which carried out the research for King’s College London’s Policy Institute and the Global Institute for Women’s Leadership, called this a “new and unusual generational pattern”, as younger cohorts have tended to be more liberal.

Not everyone believes attitudes have altered. Keziah Featherstone, executive headteacher of the Q3 Academy in Tipton, West Midlands, says: “I have not noticed anything significantly change. And I have worked in education for 30 years.” She is more worried about vaping and school absences than a spike in misogyny.

But other teachers, trainers and parents told the Guardian about shifting values and behaviour, against the backdrop of ubiquitous social media.

Anna, a secondary school teacher for 15 years until 2019, says she witnessed “a decline in feminism among young men” over that period – accompanied by an increase in troubling behaviour.

“We interviewed our students talking about the everyday sexism they encountered,” she says. “The upskirting, slut-shaming, predatory behaviour and casual microaggressions. It was horrifying to see how the girls saw it as just another part of life.”

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Michael Conroy was also a longtime teacher before he founded the consultancy Men at Work, which runs workshops for teachers and social workers.

He too describes a deterioration in behaviour and attitudes, which he says accompanied the widespread availability of smartphones. “That shifted what we were used to in school. So instead of, like, a dick pic a month, it was five every week. And it wasn’t just year 10, it was year eight.”

Over that time, he says, the educators he works with have described “an obvious harshening of the way boys talk about women; and a growing sense that somehow they must be mistreated and hated because they are boys and men”.

He says Tate’s influence results from being able to channel boys’ powerful feelings – and his message fell on fertile ground among a generation with easy access to pornography.

Conroy says: “He wants to just exploit the naivety and confusion of boys.”

Tate is facing charges in Romania of human trafficking, rape, and forming a criminal gang to sexually exploit women, which he denies.

His slick videos, often delivered shirtless, cigar in hand, exhort men to work hard to make a lasting impact on the world – and combine that message with attitudes to women that he concedes are misogynist.

Daniel Guinness is the managing director of Beyond Equality, which carries out workshops with boys and men in universities and workplaces, as well as schools, challenging norms about masculinity. He says many feel under pressure because of “internalised expectations” about manhood, which they may feel they cannot fulfil.

He says: “It’s not showing that emotional weakness. It’s also the expectation to always be right. Like you are not able to show that you can fail; that there’s more shame in doing something and making a mistake than there is just sort of sitting it out or dropping out.”

He stresses that many of the men he deals with have positive attitudes to women and feminism, but he says some can feel they are being stereotyped, or blamed for others’ actions.

Guinness cites the Everyone’s Invited website, where young women in the UK shared their experiences of sexual harassment and assault, including in school environments, as part of the wider #MeToo movement.

“There was a collective raising awareness of the violence that women and girls experienced in certain parts of their lives. And the fact that that was being perpetrated by men, and the fact that some of the norms in our society either excused that violence as being just a joke, or part of flirting, or no big deal.

“That message was often heard by many rightwing commentators, but also by young people in schools, as, ‘people think that all men do this’ – rather than, ‘these things are happening, and they’re often being driven by some of these attitudes that men have, and so all men can play a role in fixing that and challenging that’.”

Some parents of boys worry that they are treated less sympathetically than their female peers. “My son is reluctant to go to school due to bullying by a group of girls,” says one woman from Derby, who wants to remain anonymous. “He feels that there is a big power difference in schools, where boys are always punished, not listened to, and not believed.”

Nick Hewlett, the head of St Dunstan’s college, a private sixth form in south London, says: “I think we are pushing boys into a place where they see no option but to take a kind of extreme view.”

He argues that what he calls “sometimes quite innate masculine traits” such as “competitive zeal” and “banter” can be punished in schools, instead of understood and channelled.

Hewlett says: “It’s not about stopping that. It’s about reshaping it. It’s certainly about bringing girls into that conversation, and having boys properly understand the impact of their behaviour, not just on girls but on other boys as well.”

And he echoes Conroy’s warning about the effect of pornography in shaping boys’ expectations. “They get drawn into a world where they look at coercive, controlling pornographic behaviour of boys, of men towards women, and they think that’s natural and normal.”

As for Tate himself, currently awaiting trial, teachers the Guardian spoke to suggested he was less popular than before his arrest, in late 2022. But Nicholson says even if Tate is convicted, there are plenty of alternatives waiting in the “manosphere”.

“There are already three or four influencers jockeying for position if he goes down,” he says. “He’s a symptom, not the problem.”

Mike Nicholson has over seventeen years experience in education as an English teacher and middle leader. Having worked in schools from every Ofsted category he has a wide range of experience across the educational spectrum and early in his career began to develop a reputation for his ability to have an impact on boys and young men deemed ‘difficult’ and ‘challenging’. Recognition of his work with this group led to a nomination for a Pearson National Teaching Award. In 2009 Mike took a sabbatical year to manage an education program called The English Language Improvement Centre in a rural area of Ethiopia, Africa. Whilst the conditions during this time were very challenging it provided Mike with a ‘once in a lifetime’ experience and a chance to change lives by developing the literacy skills of many who had previously been unable or denied the chance to learn.

Over the years Mike became increasingly interested in how our male pupils’ understanding of masculinity played such a pivotal role in their attitudes and behaviours. Researching, developing and piloting an early version of the Progressive Masculinity Program allowed him to see how so many of our young men put on a performance and a mask of what they think it means to be ‘a man’ gleaned from films, games, social media etc. The refined version of the Progressive Masculinity Program is Mike’s effort to give our young men the freedom and confidence to remove this mask and, through open dialogue and practical activities, reconstruct a healthier and more open-minded understanding of what it can mean to be ‘a man’.

June 26, 2023

45: Masculinity, and positive ways of supporting our teenage boys: An interview with Mike Nicholson from Progressive Masculinity



Season 3BoysEmotionCommunication

The term toxic masculinity has been gaining traction, and is often used to talk about the type of masculinity where men use dominance, violence and control to gain power and superiority over others.  There’s also been an increase in efforts to educate boys in how to talk more about their feelings. But with the rise of Incels, Andrew Tate, free porn, and pick up artists, you could be forgiven for wondering whether we’re really making progress at all.

So I contacted Mike Nicholson, Director of a programme called Progressive Masculinity. He goes into schools to talk to boys about masculinity. My key aim was to ask him more about how we as parents can better support our boys to develop a healthy style of masculinity.

Mike Nicholson: www.progressivemasculinity.co.uk
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Pornography: 13
Teen male friendships and the ‘man box’: 16

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Mark Lewis: https://www.marklewis.co.uk/
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Boys in education:

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Where do these teenagers fit into Mike Nicholson;s perfect world ?. In this site’s view, Nicholson is an apologist for the new breed of submissive white masculinity which the sanctimonious left are destermined to impose universally. This does much to explain the demand for Viagra which is effectively a rape drug for women’s pleasure because only they have a right to sex. Andrew Tate was a product of the new women, a single mother who put her needs first. As he said, he is a symptom not the problem.The new Left has a one word put down for traditional men, they call them toxic. The New Feminist Order was inevitably going to arrest him for something – as with Donald Trump. They don’t like traditional conservative women either.They call them toxic. Christians like Nicholson have nothing good to say about transsexuals and high profile hypocritical feminist transphobes whose paranoia spreads far and wide with so much to do with the brutal murder of Brianna Ghey. The likes of Nicholson expect men to grin and bear the New World Feminist Order. as they had to bear the old world. R J Cook

‘I’m divorcing my husband so I can become a part-time parent – I need a break’

A woman has shared how she is divorcing her husband so she only has to see her children 50 per cent of the time – but wants to know whether she’s doing the right thing


Paige FreshwaterContent Editor

  • 07:00, 3 Feb 2024

A woman has sparked a debate after revealing she is divorcing her husband so she only has to parent her children 50 per cent of the time. Wanting to know whether she’s in the wrong for wanting to be a ‘part-time parent’, she has taken to social media to ask users for their thoughts.

She simply asked on Reddit: “Am I wrong for divorcing my husband so I can only see our kids 50 per cent of the time?” While some users believe her husband is the problem, not her children, others shared how leaving their partners impacted their overall health and wellbeing.

One user said: “It sounds like you want a divorce because you are miserable in your marriage, not necessarily because you want a break from all the responsibilities. Your husband sounds like a jerk. I would divorce his a*** too. Screw men who think they get a free pass in doing their half in the relationship.”

Another user added: “I don’t blame you for divorcing, however be aware you may end up with them 100% of the time on your own. I left my ex-husband as I gave birth to our third. I have full custody of one and most of the other two. There have been long stretches where I’ve had all three.

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January 26th 2024

Man without kids sparks outrage after claiming it’s a ‘privilege’ to be a stay-at-home mum

Kit Roberts

Published 08:16, 26 January 2024 GMT
| Last updated 08:16, 26 January 2024 GMTMan without kids sparks outrage after claiming it’s a ‘privilege’ to be a stay-at-home mum

Featured Image Credit: SDI Productions/Getty Images / TikTok/@dustinpoynter

A man has sparked outrage after posting a video saying that being a stay at home parent is ‘not a job’, before going on to call it a ‘privilege’.

Now let’s be clear before we continue, looking after a child absolutely is a full-time responsibility, and both the physical and emotional labour is often still overwhelmingly taken on by women.

Not only that, but this work is enormously undervalued and frequently overlooked.

Well, a man named Jared took to TikTok to share his views that being a stay-at-home parent is ‘not a job’.

“Being a stay at home mom is not a job whatsoever, it’s a privilege,” he said in the now-viral clip.

Explaining the controversial view further, he said: ”I was laid off from work for four months, and I had to stay home, and it’s the easiest sh*t I’ve ever done in my life.

”I can do all the daily responsibilities that come with taking care of a house in no time and then other than that all you have to do is watch your kid.”

TikToker Jared sparked fury online. Credit: TikTok / @dustinpoynter
TikToker Jared sparked fury online. Credit: TikTok / @dustinpoynter

The TikToker continued: ”And I’m not knocking stay-at-home mothers, I have respect for them, and I honestly think the world needs more of them because it’s good for the kid.”

He then proceeded to try and dig his way towards the Earth’s core, saying: ”You can’t take a nap at a full-time job, you can’t watch TV at a full-time job, you have someone watching your every move at a full-time job demanding that you do what they say.”

The video was stitched by TikToker Dustin Poynter, whose theme consists of him stitching ‘toxic’ behaviour and then commenting while waving a large red flag.

Hitting back at the video, he said: “Look, I don’t have kids either, but I grew up with three siblings, a stay-at-home mother, and a stay-at-home stepmother.

”I witnessed first-hand the stress that comes with maintaining an entire house, Olympic diving across the kitchen to save your child from putting its hand in the garbage disposal 50 times a day, listening to constant screaming and meltdowns.”

Another TikToker hit back at the video. Credit: TikTok / @dustinpoynter
Another TikToker hit back at the video. Credit: TikTok / @dustinpoynter

He added: ”And most importantly, trying not to cause irrevocable physical and psychological harm to an innocent human being who didn’t ask to be here.”

Needless to say, people were not impressed by the original video.

One replied: “The audacity to think you just ‘watch’ your kids instead of ‘raise’ your kids.”

A second wrote: “Someone leave him alone with at least two kids under 5 for a week and see how he does.”

Another posted: “Other stay at home Mums are having naps?!?! Sign me up I don’t get to do that.”

Topics: News, Parenting, UK News, US News

Kit Roberts

Woman stunned after children admit they resent her for being stay-at-home-mum

Callum Jones

Published 16:33, 16 November 2023 GMT
| Last updated 16:33, 16 November 2023 GMTWoman stunned after children admit they resent her for being stay-at-home-mum

Featured Image Credit: Maskot/fizkes/Getty Images

There is no questioning that being a parent can bring an awful lot of challenges and a lot of unexpected curveballs your way.

Some are easier to overcome than others, but a few can be pretty heartbreaking and cause a lot of unhappiness.

When your own children express their resentment at your choices, that’s when things can get pretty upsetting for the majority of parents.

The exact issue was discussed on Reddit earlier this year as a stay-at-home mum opened up on what her children’s true feelings were towards her not going to work.

The stay-at-home mum received resentment from her children. Credit: Getty Stock Photo
The stay-at-home mum received resentment from her children. Credit: Getty Stock Photo

Taking to Reddit, in a post that has since been deleted, the anonymous mum penned: “I NEVER saw this one coming. My adult, grown kids (18-20) say they resent me for being a stay-at-home mum because now I can’t help with their life financially.

“They say things like, ‘You’ve never had a job or gone to school so you don’t understand’, and ‘The least you can do is get a job now to help me’, along with lots of other comments like, ‘You should’ve worked all those years’.”

The mum went on to explain how she sacrificed having a career and continuing her education at university to instead prioritise the ‘safety and well-being’ of her children.

“I thought it was best, and we made it by just fine financially,” she added.

Her children are now adults and she has since felt a bit of criticism from them surrounding the perception of being a stay-at-home mum.

As a result, she said she now feels: “Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I wish my choices hadn’t hurt them. That was the total opposite of what I thought I was doing.

“I hope one day they’ll understand.”

She sacrificed her career and continuing her education to prioritise the 'safety and well-being' of her children. Credit: Getty Stock Photo
She sacrificed her career and continuing her education to prioritise the ‘safety and well-being’ of her children. Credit: Getty Stock Photo

The post gained a lot of attention on the parenting subreddit, with many users feeling sorry for the mum following her children’s reaction.

“Entitled is the keyword here. Your children’s comments sound extremely entitled! They also lack gratitude. Were they always this rotten?” one Reddit user wrote.

A second added: “Sounds like something my kid would say. Massive entitlement. Reality is harsh, unfortunately. While I don’t wish pain on anyway, OP’s kid is going through an adjustment to reality.”

While a third remarked: “I don’t understand why they feel entitled or have the expectation that they should have financial support as an adult. That has nothing to do with whether you were a single or dual-income household at all.”

Topics: Parenting, Reddit

Callum Jones

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Robert Cook
facebook https://www.facebook.com/rj.cook.9081 I went to school in Buckinghamshire, where my interests were music ( I was a violinist ), art ( winning county art competitions ) athletics and cross country ( I was a county team athlete ). My father died as a result of an accident- he was an ex soldier and truck driver- when I was 11. It could be said that I grew up in poverty, but I did not see it like that. As a schoolboy, I had my interests, hobbies and bicycle, worked on a farm, delivered news papers, did a lot of training for my sport, painting, and music. I also made model aeroplanes and was in the Air Training Corps, where we had the opportunity to fly an aeroplane. I had wanted to be a pilot, but university made me anti war. At the University of East Anglia-which I also represented in cross country and athletics- I studied economics, economic history, philosophy and sociology. Over the years, I have worked in a variety of manual, office and driving jobs. My first job after univerity was with the Inland Revenue in Havant, near Portsmouth. I left Hampshire to work for the Nitrate Corporation of Chile, then lecturing, teaching and journalism - then back to driving. I play and teach various styles of guitar and used to be a regular folk club performer. I quit that after being violently assaulted in Milton Keynes pub, after singing a song I wrote about how cop got away with killing Ian Tomlinson at G7, in broad daylight and caught on camera. The police took no action, saying taht my assailant had a good job. The pub in question was, and probably still is, popular with off duty police officers.

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